You’ve probably heard of the five love languages, but did you know you can use them to improve your relationships with your children?
A few years ago I noticed a shift in my fourth-grade son. Typically talkative, he had become slightly withdrawn, moody, and just less himself. Ironically—and thankfully—at the time I was reading Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages of Children. After thinking about his personality, I felt compelled to use more verbal and physical ways of connecting. When we talked about his school day I mussed his hair, rubbed his shoulder, or simply touched his arm. Within a few days, I couldn’t believe the difference—he was back to himself.
Fabulously, a small shift in the way we “speak” our child’s love language can make a difference that quickly. And yet, what we do doesn’t have to dramatic. A few minutes daily of showing love how they best receive it can bring big results. Dr. Chapman’s five key areas include physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, and acts of service.
First, consider a child that’s concerning you. Which of those love languages do they most resonate with? To figure this out, think back to see how they most often communicate their affection to others. Likely, there will be at least one or two. Then choose a simple action you can do to jumpstart change. Several of my children like words of affirmation, but I have found that a mix of verbal and written is best. I bought apple-red mailboxes, tiny little things but big enough for an index card and a treat. Displayed in our front room they are perfect for a weekly note, scripture card of the day, or tasty treat. My children—even the older ones—look for the upright mailbox flags that show, “You’ve got mail.” It’s fast for me but meaningful for them.
Kate Middleton is a breath of fresh air as a fashion icon. While she doesn't always adhere perfectly to LDS standards of modesty, I think she preserves the spirit of modesty in all she does.
I adore Kate Middleton. I think she’s poised and elegant and, well, regal. And, in a world where celebrities cavort more nude than not across the front covers of magazines, gossip sites, and the news, she’s a refreshing breath of air.
Because she’s modest.
It seems that many girls feel that modesty is synonymous with frumpy, boring, and unattractive; that guys will never pay attention to them if they don’t have enough skin showing; that all the best fashions include immodesty as a starting point.
This is not frumpy, boring, or unattractive.
(Photo from Daily Mail UK)
I think she’s gorgeous. While Kate Middleton may not adhere perfectly to LDS standards of modesty—sure, sometimes her dress is a little lower cut or her shirt is sleeveless—her clothes definitely preserve the spirit of modesty, as do her words and actions.
In short, as my mother put it, she dresses like a queen.