Single Women: How to Get More Attention, Affection, and Commitment Now

Wow. Really? I mean, you are an "expert" and this is the advice you give? Are you actually interested in the ladies who read this advice finding long-lasting happiness, or just enough of a relationship to get married, and then pay you a visit when reality hits and everything falls apart? Ok, so admittedly, it's not all bad advice. I think it's great to encourage women to be confident, and have a "life", and to communicate that in friendly ways to the men they are interested in. But how about simply making dating less about complicated rules and some sort of game you have to play, and more about being who you are. And finding happiness in being who you are. This article is based on very broad generalizations. Men are hunters, women are...prey? This is the 21st century. I think it's a good time to move away from generalizations, and realize that women and men alike have similar needs and emotions. I've probably broken pretty much all of your rules, and ended up marrying my very best friend. We're so happy. I couldn't have asked for a better man to marry. I think what made things work for us that we dared to be real. And that we didn't play weird games but honestly communicated with each other - starting with me upfront telling my now-husband how I was feeling about him. Yep, it scared the crap out of him at first. But it also helped him to scrape up the courage to be honest as well. All worked out. It was great. Anyway, good luck to all the women who're trying to find love this year. My advice would be to not follow this advice too much, but to simply discover the beautiful, wonderful person inside of you. And then enjoy living your life, and pursuing your dreams. When you are who you are, someone will come along who loves you EXACTLY how you are.

I don't see any harm in trying this method. I've hung out with guys, gone out of my way to do things for them, bailed them out of hard times or emergencies, been their best friend, called them instead of waiting for them to call me, and so on and it hasn't worked. In fact, I think it has backfired on me. I'm the "friend" not the girl friend. Even when I was the girl friend it was an abusive relationship with me doing everything for them in the hopes that they would appreciate and love me back enough to start doing their part. I'd clean their place, do their laundry, make them dinner, buy them groceries, drive them places, go wherever they wanted to go and be available whenever they needed me. I guess I'm to nice. I just love to do things for the ones I care about. The only problem was I didn't get what I needed in return and would eventually (sometimes a year later) realize I was in an unhealthy relationship! I know I'm pathetic but I really don't know what else to do. My "method" is just how I show love and it worked (if by "worked" you mean getting hitched) once. I was married for 10 years. I was determined to make it work. The problem was, I was unhappy, wore out, and became mentally ill. I was in the same kind of relationship I just wrote about, an abusive one. I ended up having to be the provider, the responsible one, and basically fulfilling all the traditional roles for the husband and wife instead of just my own. He refused to do his part. It was to much for me to handle. I think it was partially my fault for making it so easy for him not to have to do anything in the beginning. Later, I didn't know what to do and I couldn't make him change. Now I'm single and keep finding myself with the same types of guys. I refuse to believe they are all unappreciative people-users but I don't know how to find the ones that aren't. Maybe by being so easy (and not meaning sexually) I don't gain any respect from them. I'm so eager to put everyone's needs before my own. This article may really help me find a man who will love me enough to be a man and do his part in a relationship. At the very least it might force me to wait for a good man instead of throwing myself into "serving" the next guy I fancy. In case you are wondering, all of my experiences have been with LDS men. I'm telling you this because LDS men are taught their role in a marriage relationship but I've learned that, that doesn't mean they live it. I can't assume that because they are LDS they will make or become good husbands.