Is Dating Really Necessary for Healthy Marriages?

it;s easy to date my wife .. i know when i was born and she is two years younger ..

I think the biggest hang up is how much it costs to go out when you have kids. In theory its a good idea but when you have to pay on average $35+ just for a babysitter for the night it makes it hard to go out Nd that's just the cost for the sitter. Can it be done and budgeted in some financial situations yes if you make it a priority but for some people no they may be sacrificing necessities for their family to do it. Yes there is such things as babysitting exchanges but it can't be pulled off in every family living situation. So I would love to do this with my spouse weekly but not everyone has this luxury.

I understand Beth's dilema, having kids and being a working mom myself (my husband is deaf/blind) - and what we do is just go sit in the car and talk (without kids - they can be playing outside at the park, me keeping an eye on them). Sometimes we will do it while the kids are at church activities or even during Sunday School. We do try to go out regularly, but are not well off enough to do it weekly. This is our solution and it works pretty good.

Those who cannot date due to lack of finances don't use their imagination enough. Write me and I can send you over 100 things you can do on a date with NO COST!! My e-mail is:...LEBURDETTE@AOL.COM We had eight children on one moderate salary and we dated regularly.

My husband and I have been married for 27 years. (my second marriage). We have always dated. We were dirt poor with 4 kids but we got creative. We would have our dat nights on Friday nights ALWAYS. The kids knew that was OUR night. We didn't have money for sitters we would get a movie. The HAD to stay in their room. The only reason they could come out is if someone was bleeding. Put a movie on for them and they were happy. We would have dinner and watch a movie. No interruptions. Phones turned off. My kids grew up knowing my husband was important and that dating was important . The kids are grown and we still date. My kids knew it was not an option for them to stay in their room. This is. Why we still are in love and have a wonderful marriage. Bobbi

@ssdirect...it took me a few reads then I understood your comment. Pretty funny!

This video was precious, and I do appreciate the time and effort it took to put it out. I showed this video to a few of my girls in the high school where I teach and it opened up a healthy dialogue. I also sent it to my niece, who was just that evening having to have "the talk" with her 13 year old daughter. They are not members of the church, but she loved the video and was impressed by our church's stand on the topic. I wish the high schools would pass this video to the kids in the place of condoms.