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What (and What Not) to Say to the Recently Divorced

Jessica Carter - September 24, 2014

For Church members who have recently experienced divorce, it feels like the ultimate failure—marriages, especially temple marriages, aren’t supposed to end if you are doing your best to do what’s right. Yet, here we are—hurt, confused, and shaken to the core.

What (and What Not) to Say to the Recently Divorced

So, what should you say to someone who is recently divorced? Here are a few do’s and don’ts to help you navigate some emotional landmines while still offering your heartfelt support.

#1. Don’t say: nothing.

I get it—sometimes people don’t know what to say. But avoiding me or acting awkward around me doesn’t help. When I’m talking to someone, it’s pretty obvious if that person has heard the news and is trying to act like he or she doesn’t know—the lack of eye contact, the shifting from one foot to the other, the unusually intense interest in the day’s weather, etc. Go ahead and note the elephant in the room.

Do say: “I’m sorry to hear about your divorce,” or some other simple, sincere expression of sympathy.

I know I’m divorced—it’s okay for you to acknowledge this life-changing event. In fact, I would prefer that you did. It doesn’t mean I want to dwell on it. It’s just a way for you to let me know you care. And if you follow with, “How are you holding up?” it goes a long way.

#2. Don’t say: “What happened?”

Divorces are excruciatingly painful and complicated. I don’t want to explain or defend my decision. Odds are there are details a divorced person wants to keep private—especially if children are involved. And odds are this is a decision he or she has agonized over for months or even years. Maybe it wasn’t even his or her choice, but the ex spouse’s. We can’t neatly summarize it for you, nor do we want to try.

Do say: “I’m here for you if you ever need to talk.”

This statement lets us know to whom we can turn if and when we do need to work through our feelings. If I take you up on your offer, you’ll probably end up with a lot of information and insights about the situation, so it’s critical that you keep everything confidential. Please don’t extend a listening ear if you know you won’t be able to resist the urge to share details with others.

#3. Don’t say: “I never thought you two were a good match anyway” or “I never knew what you saw in him/her.”

My whole world has just been turned upside down, and I’m already questioning my judgment on just about everything in my life. Obviously, at one point I loved this person deeply and thought this person was the best match for me. It doesn’t help to know that you never liked him or that you saw our divorce coming from a mile away.

Do say: “I hope you are both doing okay.”

Some divorced people may disagree with me here, but I don’t want people to feel the need to choose sides. The ex spouse is hurting too, and I appreciate it when people express concern. In fact, I encourage friends to reach out to the ex spouse—especially if that person is the one who moved out. He or she is living somewhere new and likely doesn’t have a support system in place. If you were a friend before the divorce, there is no reason you shouldn’t be one now.

#4. Don’t say: “At least you’re still sealed together.”

For two people who have decided they would be better off living separate lives, the notion of being sealed together for eternity is not particularly comforting. And even if we are still sealed, that may not remain the case, so such a comment could make things worse down the road. Better just not to go there at all. Period.

Do say: “You are a great person with a lot to offer.”

Our confidence is nonexistent at this point, so, yes, we could use a pep talk now and then. Be specific and talk about some of your favorite qualities about us. We could use the reminder, and some of the qualities you notice might surprise us and help give us hope for someday finding love again.

#5. Don’t say: “I wonder whose fault it was,” “I wonder who left whom,” or anything else along those lines.

I know it’s human nature to speculate, and I’m sure these conversations are being had between neighbors and friends, but please be careful about what you say—especially in front of your children. Just assume that anything you say will eventually be repeated to my children. And trust me, they don’t need to hear your theories on infidelity, pornography, finances, or anything else.

Do say: “I’m sure you’ll do what’s best for you and your family. Let me know how I can help.”

Please don’t judge us. Certainly mistakes were made by both parties, but you don’t have all the facts, no matter how much you think you know. Instead, give us the benefit of the doubt. Regardless of how we got to this point, we’re here, and we’re doing the best we can. If you do offer to help in some way, please make sure you follow through. Otherwise, it feels like you’ve thrown me a desperately needed lifeline and then yanked it away again. It’s much better for me not to plan on any help than to count on assistance that never materializes.

#6. Don’t say: “I heard your ex is dating someone who looks just like Cindy Crawford/Brad Pitt.”

As I mentioned earlier, our self-esteem is probably at an all-time low. We don’t need to know that the ex spouse is dating someone who is incredibly wealthy or looks like a supermodel. Nor do we need to hear that he or she is dating a different person every night of the week.

Do say: nothing.

Never repeat rumors about the ex spouse. And even if you’ve seen something with your own two eyes, keep it to yourself. No good can come of it.

#7. Don’t say: “I know a guy/girl who is divorced. I should set you up.”

You might as well say, “You have warts, I know a guy/girl who has warts, you’d be perfect together.” We already feel like damaged goods in the LDS singles market. Don’t make us feel worse by assuming that only another divorced person could possibly be interested in us. Absolutely, Mr. Divorced could be Mr. Right, but if divorce is the only thing we have in common, don’t bother. Please consider hobbies, personalities, goals, etc., and not just our marital status.

Do say: “When you’re ready to start dating, let me know. I have a great guy/girl in mind for you.”

The thought of diving back into the dating pool is terrifying. We are depending on our friends to introduce us to others we might click with—whether or not they have been married before.

#8. Don’t say: “I’m sure you just want to be left alone.”

Getting divorced feels like jumping off a cliff—and we need friends and family to be our safety net. Assuming we want to be left alone is almost a guarantee that we will fall even deeper down the rabbit hole. Check in on us from time to time and let us know you care. Even a quick e-mail or phone call

means a lot.

Do say: “Would you like to come?”

True, I have pulled away from friends and family and currently maintain a near-hermit lifestyle. I just need more time to heal. But please keep inviting me to join you, even if I keep turning you down. I feel like I don’t fit in—especially at church—so please continue to reach out and include me. I’ll accept your invitation when I’m ready.

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Comments 34 comments

rickenrota said...

06:40 AM
on Nov 22, 2011

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The counsel in this article is very good. I HT a family that the mother and father were recently divorsed (husband is not a member). There are 2 children who are old enough to understand everything. The best thing is to do the things the article suggest, which in summary, is to show Christ-like charity and love to those in your life that need it. This is the real test of those who call themselves Christians.

elarue said...

06:52 AM
on Nov 22, 2011

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If you really want to rebel against the Twilight fad, name your child Elena or Stefan (or Damon). From The Vampire Diaries. ;-)

wsw said...

07:32 AM
on Nov 22, 2011

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Very good advice...but if you can remember divorce is like a death except your ex is still around. Each party go through the same stages of grief like unto a death. We all do not progress through them at the same rate even if others think you should just get over it and move on. If you can do nothing else...give a hug, a pat, a touch, or a smile to make that person who may or may not show it feel Christ's love. They are and always will be a son or daughter of our Heavenly parents.

rukiddingme said...

11:04 AM
on Nov 22, 2011

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Freakin Halleluha!!! Kudos for this article! What kills me in church is when people whisper being single mom when my kids are in the hallway, the discrimination upon my kids, and for being divorced OUTSIDE the Chuch. A new convert doesn't know the rules, duh!

playerpage said...

11:22 AM
on Nov 22, 2011

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"rukiddingme" is right, regarding new converts especially, but that sounds, hopefully, like something unique to her area and not Church-wide. (I mean, how ridiculous would that attitude be in an over-40 SoCal Singles Ward?) My concern is for the kids involved in the divorce. The article doesn't mention a thing about how to talk to a parent with kids, or to the kids, and you know as Mormons we are going to have a lot of them! From my own experience I have found it is best to emphasize to both parents that they keep whatever is going on between themselves and never involve the kids in an emotional tug-of-war or get them caught in the middle of an overt (or passive) fight. At the same time remember that children, even young ones, aren't idiots, and they know what is going on. You can't hide it and shouldn't try to because that will make it worse. Tell them about it, let them have their first reaction (which may include an all-night cry) and then DROP IT. Elder Maxwell once gave great advice on another topic that I have lived by my whole life: "Don't answer questions nobody is asking." Don't force the kids into "Family Counsels" or weekly updates on the subject. They will come to you in their own time and in their own way when they feel like asking questions. Then, don't assign blame, but don't feed them bull about "that's between mom and dad" or "someday we'll tell you." ANSWER THEM. My advice is for parents, obviously, based upon my own parenting. As a church friend or leader to a child, I would say: Just be there, and be a sounding board/listening ear. When it gets personal enough, judge it for whether they should direct something for their dad, mom, or bishop.

texas said...

02:29 PM
on Nov 22, 2011

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My wife of 35 yrs passed away unexpectedly and I became a single adult. In the last two years I have dated a number of single ladies - most have been divorced, some divorced more than once. Most of these involve a Temple Divorce or will when they remarry. For me this was an eye opener. I made several discoveries - divorced ladies are not 'damaged goods'. If they understand what worked and didn't work n their previous marriage and are ready to move on - they have great potential. Second (not criticizing - just stating an observation)In Young Women - the girls are taught about preparing for Temple Marriage - remaining chaste and virtuous, and marrying the young man who has returned from serving an honorable mission, getting sealed in the Temple and living happily ever after. In Young Men we are taught much the same thing - be worthy to go on a mission, serve the mission, come home and marry a young lady that is worthy to go the Temple and live happily ever after. The reality is simple - it doesn't always work out that way - and not much (usually none) effort is expending in YM and YW teaching us how to avoid a divorce, or how to effectively communicate with our spouse, or whether or not it is hormones or love that got us together in the first place. The single adult group where I live has been holding a series of firesides addressing divorce, how to get past it and move on. These have been wonderful and very informative. Additionally - in some Ward's divorced single sisters with children are looked upon as 'liabilities' - this is seriously wrong. Based on numbers I have been able to glean - approximately 25-30% of our adult - over 30 yrs old - church members are Single Adults. It is time to wake up and remember that we are children of our Father in Heaven, and that while some may have a few dents and dings from life - none of us are prefect - that is why we are here. It is difficult being a single parent with children, regardless of how the parent became single. Check with your Bishop - maybe there is a divorced sister or brother with children that could benefit from some attention, help,or service - not only during the holiday season - but all year long.

justsayin said...

08:25 PM
on Nov 22, 2011

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I'd like to echo a couple of things from the last paragraph: "Check in on us from time to time and let us know you care. Even a quick e-mail or phone call means a lot." and "please keep inviting me to join you, even if I keep turning you down. I feel like I don’t fit in—especially at church—so please continue to reach out and include me." I'm so tired of the phrase "Call me if you'd like to talk!" I don't WANT to talk; I don't want to EXIST! I'm devastated and don't feel worthy. Please make the effort to reach out to me in some way, even if you're rejected. Keep trying, as this is when I need your fellowship the most!

ezekeilrock said...

02:39 PM
on Nov 23, 2011

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I just wanna say hope I don't offend you with my comments as a guy who is looking into the mormon religion I can't even come close to the understanding of divorce as a sealed couple I have been divorced as a non member before I even looked into marriage for all eternity wow mind blowing. Please correct me if I'm wrong but I heard a comment on here you are still sealed as a couple in the next life so you can still get married again right. Again if these questions are too much don't ans me just ignore this just wanting to understand all this my understanding is your all brothers and sisters in the gospel sounds a bit incestuous forgive me if its rude. I appreciate the comments even for my divorce as a worldly male I love the way everyone has commented and supported on this site thanx very wise but also very different to what I am use too. Just one addition to my blog its a don't say harden up that's what I got from my friends.

ezekeilrock said...

02:42 PM
on Nov 23, 2011

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oh forgot the comment before my last does all that count if your not young.

ezekeilrock said...

02:44 PM
on Nov 23, 2011

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the comments from texas.

rubies007 said...

10:13 AM
on Jan 23, 2012

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Before I share my comment, I'd like to offer my condolence to TEXAS. 35 years? That's absolutely amazing to me...in a good way, AND you're back in the dating arena! I'm sure you bring a lot of wisdom to each relationship you enter into. I wish you the best! As a convert, I found each comment interesting as well as valid. I, too, am divorced, 12 years. I became a member in 2000. I have often felt that if I had been a member prior to my divorce, I think...no, I know...I would have the direction the gospel speaks about and still be married to this day. I know members, who have been married more than twice! They seem to be looking for this "magical" person they think exists outside of their husband/wife. I heard a friend tell her husband, that if he couldn't be the man God wanted him to be, then she'll find a man who is! How can any man compare to a demand like that....or even a woman?! I was shocked to say the least. I can see why he divorce her! Harsh, I know! We are given the gift of marriage, yet some of us treat it like it's returnable. We're so busy looking for "Mr/Mrs Right", that we forget to check if we ourselves are "right." How can one be seal to a spouse and kids and walk away from it? Don't get me wrong, there are reasons beyond one's control due to abuse. I truly hope, to one day meet that person that values marriage and family. I know he exist. I have no doubt. I wish I had this understanding before now...but at least I have arrived, and continue to keep growing! God Bless, All

valiente3071 said...

03:53 PM
on Oct 06, 2014

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After 3 divorces, I'm certainly somewhat of an expert of at least how it feels. I think this article is excellent advice. I wished with 'each and every' one of my divorces someone would have even come up and said anything. Even if it was the wrong thing. I moved around a little after my divorces and it seemed like every ward I was in, everyone treated me like I had some plague or something. People in the church really should learn each of these steps since they seem not to know 'what' to say. I would have been happy just to have been treated like an ordinary person.

paulmuller181 said...

07:53 AM
on Oct 09, 2014

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My Name is Paul. I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from engage to Single…when i went to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he gonna help me…i don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to Germany the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he’s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday.My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my my girl friend called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume work on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit i have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with a baby boy and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to priest_gbenga.magic_temple@priest.com, I cant give out his number cos he told me he don’t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay. You can also visit him on his website www.priestgbengamagicpalace.webs.com PAUL MULLER

paulmuller181 said...

07:53 AM
on Oct 09, 2014

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My Name is Paul. I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from engage to Single…when i went to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he gonna help me…i don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to Germany the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he’s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday.My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my my girl friend called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume work on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit i have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with a baby boy and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to priest_gbenga.magic_temple@priest.com, I cant give out his number cos he told me he don’t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay. You can also visit him on his website www.priestgbengamagicpalace.webs.com PAUL MULLER

arnoldthepigggie said...

10:48 PM
on Nov 07, 2014

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I disagree with one comment from the article above, the one that says: Do say: “When you’re ready to start dating, let me know. I have a great guy/girl in mind for you.” I'm going through a divorce now. The last thing I want to even think about is dating. That's not even close to something I'm considering. I'm not scared about going into the dating market again - the last three years of being married to my wife have been so miserable that I can't even think about other women right now. And if I did want to, I'd rather find someone on my own than have someone fix me up. Does anyone ever like to get fixed up? What I've just stated is standard advice - talking to someone who is divorcing about finding another is not on most people's minds when they're worrying about how their kids are going to handle the divorce, their finances, litigation/court and when there may even be a good chance that they want their wife or husband back. Other dum-dum comments I've heard (comments like these should be avoided, too): - You should drive to where your wife is now living (200 miles away) and convince her to come back with you. (Experts say pursuing doesn't work. Besides, she's refusing to have any contact with me, and I rarely miss her, anyway.) - Get me her number and I'll call her. We had a great marriage counselor who helped us. (We tried marriage counseling, too - it's really too late for most once the divorce has been announced, and the person who is getting divorced certainly knows that marriage counseling exists). - Once you get divorced, you'll have no end of women to choose from - just you wait (Once again - that's the last thing on my mind. As far as I'm concerned, I'm going to be celibate for the rest of my life; I have my kids to keep me busy, as well as countless other activities - divorcing people just aren't in that state of mind yet. Besides, do I want to parade all of these fantastic women in and out of my bedroom with my kids around? Not the kind of impression I want to make).

arnoldthepigggie said...

10:56 PM
on Nov 07, 2014

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One more comment to avoid: "She was so nice ..." Not to me, after our daughter died. I got screamed at repeatedly until I finally started avoiding her. Now in most cases, something wouldn't have been at the root of the divorce, but you have no idea what went on behind closed doors. Telling the person that their husband or wife was so nice implies that the person you're talking to must have been pretty bad if Mr. or Ms. Nice has left him.

arnoldthepigggie said...

11:02 PM
on Nov 07, 2014

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Sorry - the above comment was unclear, so I'll try again: One more comment to avoid: "She was so nice ..." Not to me, after our daughter died. I got screamed at repeatedly until I finally started avoiding her. Now something that extreme isn't at the root of most divorces, but you have no idea what went on behind closed doors. Telling the person that their husband or wife was so nice implies that the person you're talking to must have been pretty bad if Mr. or Ms. Nice has left him or her.

maku said...

04:33 PM
on Jan 23, 2015

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I am Alice from New York USA,I want to use this golden opportunity to appreciate the great spell caster called Dr.makuta for helping me get back my relationship with my ex lover when he ended and turned his back on me for quite a long period of time. Dr.makuta performed a spell for me and within 48 hours after the spell had been cast i receive a call from my ex saying that he is sorry for hurting me and that he will not do such thing to me in his life again, I was surprised but later accepted him back. Anyone that is in the same line of problem or having difficulties in there marriages or any part of life should contact Dr.makuta email address:makutaspellcaster@gmail.com OR +2348110035171

maku said...

04:33 PM
on Jan 23, 2015

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Hello everyone,who still cares about his/her ex-lover or having any other problem,I am PRINCESS, from Canada i never thought my ex will come back to me again,i am very happy at last that my ex-lover now my husband is back to me,who left me six months to our wedding just because of some little misunderstanding,But today we are married and we are expecting our little baby,i sincerely want to say thanks to Dr markuta for helping me cast the spell that brings him back to me,i am grateful and happier than ever before,Thank You Doctor for helping me, and if you are also having problem in your relationship or any part of life, you can also contact him and he will respond to you. email makutaspellcaster@gmail.com or call his mobile number +2348110035171

maku said...

04:33 PM
on Jan 23, 2015

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Hello everyone,who still cares about his/her ex-lover or having any other problem,I am PRINCESS, from Canada i never thought my ex will come back to me again,i am very happy at last that my ex-lover now my husband is back to me,who left me six months to our wedding just because of some little misunderstanding,But today we are married and we are expecting our little baby,i sincerely want to say thanks to Dr markuta for helping me cast the spell that brings him back to me,i am grateful and happier than ever before,Thank You Doctor for helping me, and if you are also having problem in your relationship or any part of life, you can also contact him and he will respond to you. email makutaspellcaster@gmail.com or call his mobile number +2348110035171

maku said...

04:34 PM
on Jan 23, 2015

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.I am Alice from New York USA,I want to use this golden opportunity to appreciate the great spell caster called Dr.makuta for helping me get back my relationship with my ex lover when he ended and turned his back on me for quite a long period of time. Dr.makuta performed a spell for me and within 48 hours after the spell had been cast i receive a call from my ex saying that he is sorry for hurting me and that he will not do such thing to me in his life again, I was surprised but later accepted him back. Anyone that is in the same line of problem or having difficulties in there marriages or any part of life should contact Dr.makuta email address:makutaspellcaster@gmail.com OR +2348110035171

bensolutioncentre said...

11:29 AM
on Feb 11, 2015

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THANKS TO DR BENEDICT FOR SOLVING MY PROBLEMS An amazing testimony on a spell caster who brought my wife back to me.. My name is Andy Sowers,i live in Australia,and I'm happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with two kids.A very big problem occurred in my family seven months ago,between me and my wife.so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce.she said that she never wanted to stay with me again,and that she didn't love me anymore.So she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get her back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and she confirmed it that she has made her decision,and she never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my wife.So i explained every thing to her,so she told me that the only way i can get my wife back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for her too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow her advice. Then she gave me the email address of the spell caster whom she visited.{benedictsolutioncentre@gmail.com}. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address she gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back the next day.What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me,and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my wife who didn't call me for the past seven {7}months,gave me a call to inform me that she was coming back.So Amazing!! So that was how she came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and she apologized for her mistake,and for the pain she caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster DR benedict. So. So,if you are in a similar problem or any kind of problems you can also contact him via his email(benedictsolutioncentre@gmail.com}he is the solution to all your problems and predicaments in life.his email again is{benedictsolutioncentre@gmail.com}. HE ALSO SPECIALIZE IN THE THE FOLLOWING PROBLEMS; (1) If you want your ex back. (2) If you want to be promoted in your office. (3) If you want a child. (4) If you want to be rich. (5) if you have any sickness like ( H I V/AIDS ),(CANCER) or any sickness. once again make sure you contact him if you have any problem he will help you. his email address is(benedictsolutioncentre@gmail.com).

lisa5223 said...

12:25 AM
on Feb 17, 2015

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I WANT TO QUICKLY USE THIS OPPORTUNITY TO THANK THE MOST POWERFUL SPELL CASTER WHO CAST A SPELL FOR ME TO GET MY LOVER BACK. MY LOVER LEFT ME AND RUN AFTER ANOTHER GIRL, HE CLAIMED HE WAS NO LONGER FEELING OUR RELATIONSHIP. HE BLOCKED ME OFF HIS PHONE AND MAIL. I TRIED ALL I COULD TO GET HIM BACK, BUT TO NO AVAIL. 3 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTERS DECEIVED ME AND GO AWAY WITH MY MONEY AND DID NOTHING FOR ME. A FRIEND WHOM DR VOKE HAS HELPED BEFORE GAVE ME HIS CONTACT AND ASSURE ME OF POSITIVE RESULT. I WAS ACTUALLY CONFUSED AND SCARED BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO LOOSE ANY MORE MONEY. SHE ENCOURAGE ME TO GIVE A TRY, I DECIDED TO GIVE MY LAST TRY, TO MY GREATEST SURPRISE, DR VOKE CAST A SPELL FOR ME AND MY LOVER CONTACTED ME IN LESS THAN 48HOURS AND HE ACTUALLY CAME BACK LOOKING FOR ME. HE PROPOSED MARRIAGE TO ME AND NOW WE ARE GETTING MARRIED IN 3WEEKS TIME. THANKS TO YOU DR VOKE, I WILL FOR EVER REMAIN GRATEFUL TO YOU. I ADVICE ANY ONE SEEKING FOR A REAL AND GENUINE SPELL CASTER NOT TO WASTE ANY MONEY OR TIME WITH FAKE SPELL CASTERS, JUST GO STRAIGHT TO DR VOKE NOW, HIS CONTACT EMAIL IS (DOCTORVOKE@GMAIL.COM) , I AM 100% SURE HE WILL HELP YOU TOO. ONCE AGAIN, THANK YOU SIR, YOU ARE REALLY AS GREAT AS MY FRIEND TOLD ME.(DOCTORVOKE@GMAIL.COM)

tessy5 said...

06:47 PM
on Feb 20, 2015

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My name is Tessy Cole from Finland, My boyfriend left me a month ago and he was leaving with another woman who is 5 years older than him, i felt like my life is completely over so one day as i was browsing searching on the internet for help I read over the internet how a spell caster who has help several people to get there love back. I have been depress for the past one month and what i needed is to get him back and live with him happily. So, i decided to give it a try so i contacted the spell caster called DR. EBAKOR and i explained my problems to him and he said he will cast a love spell for me that will bring him back forever. I had no choice but to inform DR. EBAKOR to cast the spell which i use to get my boyfriend back and now my life is complete and both of us are very happy with the relationship. And i am really grateful to this man for what he has done for me and my family, Thank you very much and i will continue to say and share my testimony over and over again. For those who need help or that are having the same problem or other wise as me should contact him on his email address; DOCTOREBAKORSPELLTEMPLE@HOTMAIL.COM You can also reach him on his cell phone: +2348136047017

doreenann said...

12:22 AM
on Feb 26, 2015

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My Name is Ann, From Canada I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called GREAT MUTABA has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell within 24 hours. I was married to my husband Bill Ferio, we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email greatmutaba@yahoo.com then you won’t believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he cast a very strong spell for me and bring my lost husband back within 24hrs, and after a month I miss my monthly period and went for a test and the result showed that i was pregnant. i am happy today am a mother of a baby Boy,thank you once again the GREAT MUTABA for what you have done for me.Contact him on his private email greatmutaba@yahoo.com if you are out there passing through any of this problems or predicaments in your life

doreenann said...

12:22 AM
on Feb 26, 2015

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My Name is Ann, From Canada I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called GREAT MUTABA has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell within 24 hours. I was married to my husband Bill Ferio, we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email greatmutaba@yahoo.com then you won’t believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he cast a very strong spell for me and bring my lost husband back within 24hrs, and after a month I miss my monthly period and went for a test and the result showed that i was pregnant. i am happy today am a mother of a baby Boy,thank you once again the GREAT MUTABA for what you have done for me.Contact him on his private email greatmutaba@yahoo.com if you are out there passing through any of this problems or predicaments in your life

doreenann said...

12:27 AM
on Feb 26, 2015

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My Name is Ann, From Canada I wish to share my testimonies with the general public about what this man called GREAT MUTABA has just done for me , this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband to me with his great spell within 24 hours. I was married to my husband Bill Ferio, we were together for a long time and we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he can’t continue anymore then I was looking for ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me about this man and gave his contact email greatmutaba@yahoo.com then you won’t believe this when I contacted this man on my problems he cast a very strong spell for me and bring my lost husband back within 24hrs, and after a month I miss my monthly period and went for a test and the result showed that i was pregnant. i am happy today am a mother of a baby Boy,thank you once again the GREAT MUTABA for what you have done for me.Contact him on his private email greatmutaba@yahoo.com if you are out there passing through any of this problems or predicaments in your life

curtisruben3 said...

02:58 AM
on Feb 26, 2015

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For the past 3 months now I have been looking for good and geniue spell to bring back my ex lover back and also help me to win lottery. and it has been a hard time for me finding the right place until I get in contact with Dr Trust who gave me powerful prayer and assured me that it will take two days before the spell will be effective, truly 2 days later, my Ex Lover rang me, i answered the call, he started apologizing, we are together Now. Thank you for making her to know that we are meet to be together and also making my dreams come true. And he did a spell that make me to win lottery. Please if any body needs LOVE SPELL,LOTTERY,PRENANCY SPELL, DIVORCE SPELL, GET YOUR PARTNER. BACK AND MANY MORE YOU MAKE NEED. Email him now for your own help. Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com call him +2348156885231 All thanks goes to DR.Trust for the excessive work that he has done for me.

curtisruben3 said...

02:59 AM
on Feb 26, 2015

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For the past 3 months now I have been looking for good and geniue spell to bring back my ex lover back and also help me to win lottery. and it has been a hard time for me finding the right place until I get in contact with Dr Trust who gave me powerful prayer and assured me that it will take two days before the spell will be effective, truly 2 days later, my Ex Lover rang me, i answered the call, he started apologizing, we are together Now. Thank you for making her to know that we are meet to be together and also making my dreams come true. And he did a spell that make me to win lottery. Please if any body needs LOVE SPELL,LOTTERY,PRENANCY SPELL, DIVORCE SPELL, GET YOUR PARTNER. BACK AND MANY MORE YOU MAKE NEED. Email him now for your own help. Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com call him +2348156885231 All thanks goes to DR.Trust for the excessive work that he has done for me. .....

kaylarety said...

12:45 AM
on Feb 27, 2015

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Hello everyone, I am proud to testify this testimony. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try the spell caster that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spell work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise the spell caster Dr Camara helped me get my husband back after 5 month of divorce and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn't love me anymore. well, i cannot say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship contact him on his email: camaralovespell@live.com he is the only answer to relationship problems once again his email is CAMARALOVESPELL@LIVE.COM

kaylarety said...

12:45 AM
on Feb 27, 2015

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Hello everyone, I am proud to testify this testimony. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try the spell caster that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spell work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise the spell caster Dr Camara helped me get my husband back after 5 month of divorce and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn't love me anymore. well, i cannot say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship contact him on his email: camaralovespell@live.com he is the only answer to relationship problems once again his email is CAMARALOVESPELL@LIVE.COM

kaylarety said...

12:45 AM
on Feb 27, 2015

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Hello everyone, I am proud to testify this testimony. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try the spell caster that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spell work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise the spell caster Dr Camara helped me get my husband back after 5 month of divorce and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn't love me anymore. well, i cannot say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship contact him on his email: camaralovespell@live.com he is the only answer to relationship problems once again his email is CAMARALOVESPELL@LIVE.COM

kaylarety said...

12:45 AM
on Feb 27, 2015

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Hello everyone, I am proud to testify this testimony. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try the spell caster that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spell work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise the spell caster Dr Camara helped me get my husband back after 5 month of divorce and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn't love me anymore. well, i cannot say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship contact him on his email: camaralovespell@live.com he is the only answer to relationship problems once again his email is CAMARALOVESPELL@LIVE.COM

kaylarety said...

12:45 AM
on Feb 27, 2015

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Hello everyone, I am proud to testify this testimony. i saw a post on how a lady got her husband back and i decided to try the spell caster that helped her because my relationship was crashing. although i never believed in spell work i reluctantly tried him because i was desperate but to my greatest surprise the spell caster Dr Camara helped me get my husband back after 5 month of divorce and my relationship is now perfect just as he promised my husband now treats me like a queen even when he had told me before he doesn't love me anymore. well, i cannot say much but if you are passing through difficulties in your relationship contact him on his email: camaralovespell@live.com he is the only answer to relationship problems once again his email is CAMARALOVESPELL@LIVE.COM
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