Somewhere along the line, we’ve all struggled with feelings of inadequacy. For many of us, "not feeling good enough" was especially prevalent during childhood. Help your children develop self-confidence by having a self-esteem boosting family home evening where fears can be addressed and everyone can be reminded of their divine potential as children of God.Preparation
Make handouts of Elder L. Tom Perry’s quote in the lesson so the kids can put it in a place where it can remind them often of their worth. For the object lesson you will need a large balloon, permanent marker, and pin. For the treat you will need markers, glue, sturdy paper, and an assortment of candy in mini packaging.
“I Am a Child of God” (Hymns, 301)
Have someone read D&C 18:10, “Remember, the worth of souls is great in the sight of God.”
Ask your family members to name a time when they’ve felt less than special. Possible answers might include: when receiving a bad grade, getting made fun of by peers, getting picked last for a team, not having a prom date, or not choosing the right.
Discuss the element fear plays in each of the situations named. Have the experiences made the children fearful of the same thing happening again? How does feeling fearful make them want to act? What good does fear do? Does fear make them want to change the situation?
Take the balloon and have a volunteer blow it up and tie it. Have another volunteer write the word FEAR in big letters on the balloon. Ask the children what would happen if the cockpit of an airplane was full of “FEAR balloons.” Ask them what it would be like to have a bunch tied around their necks. Discuss the problems the balloons would cause and brainstorm solutions.
Next, present one great resolution: Pop the balloon with a pin. Point out what little it took to eliminate fear. Explain that our fears are mostly air and that they hold us back unless we overcome them. Suggest that the pin could represent faith in our potential as children of God.
Have someone read the following quote by Elder L. Tom Perry:
“Every one of our Father in Heaven’s children is great in His sight. If the Lord sees greatness in you, how then should you see yourself? We have all been blessed with many talents and abilities. Some have been blessed with the talent to sing, some to paint, some to speak, some to dance, some to create beautiful things with their hands, and others to render compassionate service. Some may possess many, others only a few. It matters not the size or the quantity but the effort we put forth to develop the talents and abilities we have received. You are not competing with anyone else. You are only competing with yourself to do the best with whatever you have received. Each talent that is developed will be greatly needed and will give you tremendous fulfillment and satisfaction during your life” (Youth of the Noble Birthright, Ensign, Nov. 1998, 73).
Finally, talk about specific ways family members can overcome fears and develop their talents. For example, if a child is struggling with a particular sport in P.E., plan times for the family to go practice the sport in a setting where the child will feel okay about making mistakes and can improve his or her abilities. Or, if someone doesn’t feel like they have much of a social life, brainstorm fun activities he or she could plan and invite others to join.Treat
One way to help boost everyone’s self-esteem is by taking turns saying nice things about each other. But instead of going around the room just verbalizing compliments, make candy cards for each other. Put everyone’s name in a bowl and have each person draw a name. Have everyone make a candy card for the person whose name was drawn. To make candy cards, everyone must put their creativity to work and come up with a note replacing some words with candy. For example:
“You are worth ($100 Grand). Thank you for teaching me how to do some of your magic (Twix). That was really fun. Well, I hope you enjoy this card (Good and Plenty). You are such a (Sweet Tarts).”
Let everyone munch on the candy as they work. If some of the candy is tricky to work into a card, cross off some of the letters and make them say what you want.
Possible candy to use can include: Starbursts, Almond Joy, Sweet Tarts, Skittles, M&M's, Snickers, Hot Tamales, Life Savers, etc.